Dating and New Relationship Counseling Services
It Only Takes One
We all know that finding the right relationship, or even just getting back into the dating scene after a breakup or divorce, can be a difficult and often disappointing and challenging experience. Some might say it’s like finding a needle in a “haystack”. After awhile you might become discouraged, overwhelmed, lost, and unsure how to proceed. Sometimes it may even feel like something is wrong with you. Well rest assured you are not alone, many other people are going through the same exact feelings.
At West Coast Counseling Center we have all been there at one time or another. We understand how it feels to work hard at finding the right relationship and feel like you keep running into walls. Our therapists believe you can find the love and commitment that you have been searching for by developing creative ways to meet the “right one” and by understanding what may be blocking you. We will help you learn to:
- discover if there is a connection between your desire and your past history
- face your fears of rejection and hopelessness
- differentiate the “wrong “person from the “right” match for you
- look and understand your family history that may be creating obstacles and causing you to repeat negative life patterns
- release and heal your pain to enable you to feel worthy and deserving of a wonderful partner and relationship
- discover how to be your best person so that you will meet someone of the same caliber
- get to the 2nd date and then the 3rd and 4th…
- teach you what is “normal” and when you may be giving too much or not asking for enough
- know the signs of when it’s time to move on….next!! or when you should stay and work it out because it may be worth it
- not take yourself too seriously and keep your eye on the ball
- find appropriate dating and meeting sites and help you construct your dating profile to fit your needs
- develop a wish list
- select appropriate dates and then spend time talking about what works and what doesn’t
This process can be fun. Sometimes it helps to find a friend who is also going through this process or to join a group. For more information on groups, click here
Remember you may have to date one hundred frogs to find the right Prince or Princess but in the end, It Only Takes One.
New Relationships
After you have found that “special” person and you transition into a new relationship, you or both you and your partner may want to begin to work on relationship building.
At this time couples want to be sure that they are compatible and share the same goals and values.
In a safe environment you will be able to share your fears, confusion, thoughts and desires. You can then begin to develop healthy communication skills such as the art of listening, compromise, ability to understand and accept differences, and learn to resolve conflict. Issues that may be explored are
- how to keep your relationship fun and fresh, i.e., “dating your mate”
- hot monogamy
- how to build on your friendship
- how finances figure into your relationship
- emotional intimacy
- when to integrate your friends, family, children and pets
- how to keep love and peace in your relationship
Whatever issues you are struggling with in your relationship or dating life, we can help you get past them and work them out. The first step is to simply call us and talk to us about it. We will be able to guide you from there. We are here to help you, so do not hesitate to pick up the phone and talk to us today. You may actually have fun and in the end remember... it only takes one!